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    Now is the time for me to right what is wrong and fix what I have broken. I feel like I need to do this in order to feel better about myself.

    I am not on this site as much as I used to, but the times I have been on, I have gotten into some rather heated fights over some rather unpopular opinions. I just want to take this moment to apologize to anyone who I have said anything about that was wronged or slighted. That was not a good look for me, especially since a while ago most people had good opinions of me, but those people have all but left GoldDerby.

    To make things clear, I was born and raised in a Christian family and the faith is still a part of my adult life. I know that some people, especially people on this site don’t like that and that is perfectly fine and you can have whatever religion you want and I won’t stop you. But I mention this because The Bible does teach some things that people nowadays often perceive as backwards, old-fashioned or outdated. Again it’s fine to have this mindset, but I still follow a lot of what it teaches. That being said, the principle teaching is “love” and I have not acted loving in the past.

    Firstly, I honestly don’t really care about people’s sexual orientation or identity. It has no baring on my life and people are more than free to love whoever they want. I have LGBT friends who are loyal, wonderful, insightful people that I value as much as my heterosexual friends. But I will say that sometimes the overexposure in the media has gotten me a little annoyed. Again, nothing wrong with representation in the media, but when I hear about it a lot, it gets tiring. Think of it as a “too much of a good thing” scenario. So I have said things on these forum threads that people got offended over and my reputation was all but tainted because of it. And for that, I am sorry. I was never intending to that in the slightest because I was not acting in the right frame of mind. I realize that every word I say is like a minefield where it could all blow up in your face and it has at multiple times for me. It was especially shitty of me to try to make myself out as the victim which was wrong of me again and I never should have done that.

    There’s also the recent Sam Smith debacle that arose recently, and while that is fresh in my mind, I will apologize for my actions there. I am a really big of Smith and I especially love their newest song “To Die For”, but please do not think of me as “queerphobic” or “nonbinaryphobic”. Again I don’t really care what people do in their private lives, and it is still a little weird for me to call singular people “they/them”. Disagreement is not necessarily hatred. But I guess the times are changing. I will call Sam “them” but I am inherently old-fashioned and I may forget from time to time, and if in the future if I continue talking on these forums, please keep that under advisement if a could “he/hims” slip through the cracks. But like I said before, I have been a fan of Sam Smith since “Stay with Me” and I have nothing against them as a person or the non-binary community as a whole.

    It’s clear that a number of the users on this site are right-leaning. I wouldn’t call myself “conservative”. I am more neutral as I agree with stuff on both sides of the political spectrum. But honestly I am not really a political person, but I am way too opinionated and sometimes obstructive. It’s just… man, I want to make things better because I don’t want people to have negative opinions of me. I want to make people happy and not to make them angry. I don’t want things to get worse on this site and I don’t want more users to “ignore” or flat out “block” me.

    So, to conclude before this goes on too long, if there are any comments I have made in the past that got anyone on GoldDerby upset or offended or aghast, then I would like to say that I am sorry and I will try not to do it again. The LGBT community deserve better and the people are usually pretty great (I say usually because there’s a couple of bad apples in every community and demographic, and I don’t want to be one of those). I think that people on GoldDerby should talk about movies, television shows, music and media awards rather than politics, but that’s neither here or there.

    I am trying to be better. I am not sure how much I will be on GoldDerby in the future. I’ll probably pop in here or there to voice some opinions (nothing controversial or hateful from now on) or to do some of my Tyler’s Choice Awards. This is hopefully the start of better days and better times for Tyler the Awesome Guy, but I have a long way to go before I gain that moniker again.

    May the best of your todays be the worst of your tomorrows.

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    Manuelcolon
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    Hello, i have seen you around here for years, but since i don’t post that much or make connections i don’t think we have talked.

    Sometimes we as users forget that the main point of this forum is to predict awards and talk about films, TV, music, theater, or art in general. Then we start feeling the obligation to share our opinion just because we have the right to share it, but the problem is the way we share it. Everyone has an opinion and that is okay, but outside of the troll accounts there is no reason for us to be rude or negative when just talking about art. I’m not saying you are rude or negative, i’m speaking more general because i see how fights develop here and it confuses me how we start talking about a new Jennifer Lawrence movie and end up calling people out for their sexuality, religion, political believes, race, etc.

    We are here just to enjoy and share our thoughts about awards, not to fight about it. I am glad that you are sharing this because you know there is something off with your behaviour and also with the forum as a whole, now that you admit this the only thing to do is get better, keep coming here to read about the things you like, keep sharing what you think (and always think about the way you say it), and keep predicting the awards you like.

    Most communities are very negative, but we don’t have to be like that, be yourself first.

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    Tyler The Awesome Guy
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    Exactly. This site in the earlier days was a fun place where we talked about movies and TV shows and stuff that we enjoyed. If you want to talk about politics or political matters, there is a completely separate forum for it. There is nothing wrong with talking about it, but it’s a matter of time and place.

    What you just said, Manuel, should be the motto or slogan of GoldDerby.

    May the best of your todays be the worst of your tomorrows.

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    Manuelcolon
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    I have also felt the need to explode at someone when they give a negative opinion or talk crap about something, but i just breathe and remember that i’m here only to learn and connect with other predictors.

    And yes, i mean we even have a Politics thread where people can talk about it haha, i don’t know why someone starts talking about Taylor Swift’s Grammy chances and end up talking about Trump or something like that.

    I hope more people read your thread so it can help them reflect on what we are doing here, because we all throw a little wood at the fire sometimes.

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    Boz
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    I guess I should also apologize if I’ve been a bit too rough on you. There are, in fact, ways to reconcile your Christianity with the modern view on homosexuality; regardless of your stance on it, thank you for apologizing.

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    “I have LGBT friends who are loyal, wonderful, insightful people that I value as much as my heterosexual friends. But I will say that sometimes the overexposure in the media has gotten me a little annoyed. Again, nothing wrong with representation in the media, but when I hear about it a lot, it gets tiring.”

    Thank you for your apology, but please consider what it is like for those that are discriminated against because of their sexuality and/race. Fighting for representation and rights is something that is necessary. You said that you found it tiring – just think of what it is like for people like me to continually have to fight for equal rights all of their life. You considered/consider it annoying, but what is annoying is when you have certain groups tell you that you do not deserve this or you do not deserve that – that is annoying.

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    Tyler The Awesome Guy
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    “I have LGBT friends who are loyal, wonderful, insightful people that I value as much as my heterosexual friends. But I will say that sometimes the overexposure in the media has gotten me a little annoyed. Again, nothing wrong with representation in the media, but when I hear about it a lot, it gets tiring.”

    Thank you for your apology, but please consider what it is like for those that are discriminated against because of their sexuality and/race. Fighting for representation and rights is something that is necessary. You said that you found it tiring – just think of what it is like for people like me to continually have to fight for equal rights all of their life. You considered/consider it annoying, but what is annoying is when you have certain groups tell you that you do not deserve this or you do not deserve that – that is annoying.

    I was more meaning the overexposure was tiring. Like every time I hear about it on the Internet or on TV and stuff. I approve of them fighting for their discrimination. I myself think that they should focus their efforts on Muslim countries where Sharia law is still place where they literally throw homosexuals off buildings. That is wrong and that is something worth fighting for.

    Forgive me if that part was a little confusing.

    May the best of your todays be the worst of your tomorrows.

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